[Ahem, this post will mostly discuss those who are transsexual, or unhappy with their biological sex. NOT those who are transgender and are not seeking to change their biological sex. Sex and gender are two different things.]
So this is interesting.
I love college.
I’m sitting in class, on here now and watching Capital Carnage on the WWE Network. One earbud in, hidden by my hair and shirt.
And because I keep looking up at the PowerPoint and randomly typing and generally seem like I’m paying attention, the teacher is none the wiser.
Sorry not sorry.
The men of tumblr unite. Because this is more than fighting the patriarchy, this is fighting for the voice of the people.
THE FUCK DID YOU SAY THE PATRIARCHY WAS UP TO?
I’M ON MY WAY.
Who is this how did you get this numb—THE PATRIARCHY IS DOING WHTA
SAVE SOME PATRIARCH BLOOD FOR US
3:01PM SYDNEY TIME
AW HELL NO
I’M COMIN YOU MOTHERFUCKERS I DON’T EVEN CARE IF THEY DON’T LET ME ON A PLANE
Fucking bro strider come out!! Omg HAHAHAAH I love theses guys
Meanwhile In England……
"Jolly great bit of Tea"
"THE PATRIARCHY DOING WHAT!?!!?!?!"
"Those Bloody Wankers!!!!!!"
"It Looks Like Tea Time Is Going To Have To Wait"
"It’s A Jolly Good Thing I kept My Old Equipment…."
"All Right Old Chaps, Im On My Way!!!"
I just reblogged this, but IT GOT BETTER.
Ladies and gentlemen, the British.
the realest thing I’ve ever read.
Rugrats was deep.
I know I have like 9 followers and some of them follow over 100 blogs so this might not be seen but for the record, all underwear is sexy. You don’t need any frills, you don’t need to wear a thong, no special patterns are required, everything is sexy if you are attracted to the person. I have recently been disappointed because I think my girlfriend looks incredibly cute in hoodies and all winter she hasn’t worn one, TARDIS onesie is alright, but the point being if she would wear what people think are unattractive and comfort clothing, I’d just want to snuggle her. Granted an important part is that you have to feel sexy with what you wear, if wearing a certain pair of underwear makes you feel sexy, it is like 200% better for the person you are with, because there are times when my girlfriend doesn’t feel sexy, and even though I am basically worshipping her (she uses that exact phrase) she doesn’t enjoy time with me. So in the end I guess I wanted to say is if you find yourself sexy in whatever you wear, the person who loves you will feel the exact same way towards you.
I DON’T WEAR HOODIES BECAUSE I DON’T LIKE THE HOOD
They make rat nests in the back of my head. I don’t do the ponytail thing like you do.
Come on, I substitute those with flannels. How much more snuggly can I get?
My memorial tattoo for a friend. Done by Rodney Taylor at DH Artworks in Greensboro, NC. The birds were originally going to be colored in as well, but the artist suggested to leave them as negative space so they would pop out more, such a great suggestion. I love it!
“The extreme always makes an impression.
if someone has a fucking phobia of something don’t be an asshole and play with their fear for your own amusementUNLESS IT’S HOMOPHOBIA. THEN YOU ACT AS NON-STRAIGHT AS YOU CAN AND WATCH THE BLOOD POUR OUT OF THEIR EYES
The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug
sailorsoldiersofjustice reblogged your link and added:
What do you mean by the “ideas parents are…
Parents are the instrument through which children learn about the world. Until adolescence, when psychological development changes and urges to individualize happen, children will generally mimic and agree with whatever their parents happen to believe.
Good example: When I was 5, I asked my mom if abortion was murder. Why? Because my also 5 year old friend was telling everyone how abortion was murder because her parents had been talking about it and that’s what they believed. Whether she still holds this belief or not, I don’t know. But it’s likely that she does because that’s the environment she grew up in. That’s what she was instilled with to begin with.
Barbie would simply be a tool used to reinforce those ideas.
Another good example: I have a cousin who has been struggling with eating disorders since she was young. One of the things I remember being an issue in my family was that my uncle/her father sort of pushed her to it and encouraged it. At meals where we were all gathered, he’d make remarks about what she’d choose to eat. ”You know mashed potatoes are just carbs and empty calories, right?” ”You’re gonna get fat if you eat [insert food here]” ”You’re a girl. You need to be thin or boys won’t like you.” He judged her for everything she put in her mouth and encouraged her to eat less and less. So when we found out that she was legitimately purging after eating and going days with only a couple hundred calories of food, there was a lot of talk that it might not have happened if he hadn’t reinforced the idea in the first place.
Imagine someone like that telling their daughter that they should strive to look like Barbie. Versus a parent that says “Of course you can be a doctor and a gymnast. Barbie is.”
The doll itself has nothing to do with it. But what is handed down by the parents does.
It’s all about how our brains actually learn things.
Think of Albert Bandura and his experiments on aggression. Children watched how adults behaved toward a doll. The results were that the children were more likely to treat the doll exactly how the adults they viewed had. I overly simplified but it’s called Observational Learning and along with Reinforcement Learning (Skinner’s ideas) and, to a lesser extent Pavlov’s Classical Conditioning, it’s how we learn and develop our initial ideas about the world.
Since people on here have a major problem differentiating between curious interrogative statements about a situation and actual victim blaming I made a thing.
But don’t a lot of these questions imply that the victim is at least partially to blame for the rape? Because why else would it be relevant what they were wearing? Who cares what someone’s reason for being out at a certain time was? Assault happens during they day too, and also regardless of what people are wearing. I don’t see the relevance of the answers to these particular questions.
Think with logic, not feels.
These interrogative questions are all questions that the police would ask you when filing a report. Do you know why? No, not because “patriarchy”. It’s because investigators and detectives are obligated to attempt to find out both sides of the story and if they add up. “But who would lie about rape?” one might ask. Unfortunately, many, many people. And so as a precaution, and to gather more accurate details, the “victim” and “accused” are both asked similar questions in hopes of getting two completely matching stories that line up with the evidence found.
No, the questions dont imply the victim is to blame. For example:
"Alright, now I’m going to ask you a few questions about the events of that particular day. I want you to try and remember as best you can what happened. Do you understand?"
"Did you consume alcohol before the sexual assault?"
"No, I didn’t."
(This is many times a question to make sure the victim would be able to have an accurate recollection of what happened. The same would be asked to the accused.)
"What were you wearing at the time of the assault?"
"A thick black sweater, blue jeans and an overcoat. It was cold that day."
(Usually questions about details are asked, like I stated previously, to make sure details line up. This means what both parties wore and what they looked like. They’ll usually ask you waht the accused wore too. And ask the accused both questions. We all want to make sure some innocent person wasn’t dragged arrested.)
"Why were you out alone so late at night?"
"I was walking to a friend’s house. She lives a block away so I thought I’d be fine if I hurried."
(Obviously they have to ask backstory. They want the whole story so in court there’s no weird wild-card pulled. Casually forgetting to tell investigators important details is never seen in a good light.)
"You were well aquainted with the man who sexually assaulted you?"
"Not really. He went to my high school but we weren’t friends or anything then."
(Again, more details. Many women get raped by men they know, and its terrible. But some falsely accuse to try and trap men they know and that’s terrible also. Its good to gather all the details.)
And of course the last question would be to tell in detail what happened.
Most times you’ll be repeating this story again and again and again and again and someone will be noting what you say. A consistant story is often reguarded as trustwothy, especially if it matches up with the evidence. But most people can not keep a straight story if they’re asked multiple invasive detailed questions and they’re lying.
People lie to the police all the time. About murder. About drugs. About rape. About everything. So please dont try to make it seem like they’re accusing the victim of lying right off the bat. Because they ask the same questions to the accused.
This is true. A lot of these questions police might ask to anyone, regardless of whether they were robbed or raped.
For instance “What were you wearing?” might be asked to a man robbed to see if he was wearing other valuables besides the Rolex that got stolen.
However, there is a difference between POLICE asking these statements and regular, average people.
Idc who you are. If you’re a teacher I confide in or a counselor or a friend. You don’t need to know what I was wearing or whether I had had alcohol.
Usually, an Average Joe asking that question is fishing for a reason to excuse what happened to you, for various reasons.
Now, not all people do this, and you should answer only at your own discretion. Subsequent questions will probably reveal the askers true motives